Getting Over A Broken Heart
Getting over a broken heart will be painful for you! Your friends might try to encourage you to "just get over it."
Others won't understand why you just can't see that he was no good for you, and that you're better off without him.
You, on the other hand, love the man who broke your heart. You really thought he was the one. He made you promises about someday walking down the aisle to be your husband.
He told you that you were the first woman he truly loved and that he couldn't talk to just anyone like he could you. You now feel played and angry but deep down you also know you love him, still.
Getting over a broken heart is not like fixing a flat tire or going out to dinner.
When your heart is broken, deep feelings surrounding anxiety, depression, sadness, loneliness, fear, and all kinds of emotional pain can hit you like a hard rock. You will likely feel over-whelmed by your own emotions and thoughts.
My best advice to you would be to:
Share your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust. Everyone needs help sometimes. Don't be too proud.
Record your thoughts in a journal. Remember to be honest and don't sensor your thoughts. This is your private place to be real.
Get professional help if you feel unable to cope with your situation. Break ups can cause some people to go into a deep depression and might even cause panick attacks.
I don't know if it's been proven but I would venture to say that some break ups are so bad that they leave some people with post traumatic stress disorder.
Don't react negatively. Keep the peace with yourself and with your ex if you have to see him. Bitterness and bad behavior can destroy any hope of a future relationship.
Refuse to live in the past. If you move forward in thought and action you might be surprised how far away from negative thinking you will get.
Getting over a broken heart won't be a unique situation to only you. Hearts are broken everyday in the lives of millions.
People learn to move on ... and in the midst of daily living, healing begins to take place.
Trust me when I tell you that this, too, shall pass. It always does if you let it.
You can learn to let go and still love someone from a distance.
You can love the person you thought they were even if they turned out to be someone entirely different.
You can love them despite their brokenness and be open to meeting someone much better for you in the near future.
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