Are You Single? Lonely ... and Desperate For Love?

Being lonely and desperate for love is not a good combination. It's natural to want to be loved, whether you're single or not. But feeling lonely and desperate is not the energy you want to put out there, when searching for the right man or woman.

If you are feeling a love void within you and you start a new relationship, that relationship may at first distract you from your loneliness but eventually it will start to mirror what you feel inside.

Why? Love is a state of being. And when individuals own their own awareness of love it permeates all areas of their lives.

However, if you're feeling lonely, disconnected, and isolated from yourself, you have yet to find your sense of self that is rooted in love.

Instead you feel uneasy, fearful and unloved. As a result, you take that uneasy going feeling out into the dating world looking for someone perfect.

And what do you find... energy that mirrors your own. You attract others who are also neglecting themselves in a similar way or another. Basically, you're attracting similar energy that is dependent upon an external fix for an internal solution.

It wasn't so long ago that I found myself lonely and desperate for love and human connections.

My job required me to be on the road five and sometimes seven days a week. This went on for nearly a decade. Although I made a lot of money, my social life suffered and dating anyone was completely out of the question.

Looking back to that time in my life, I recognize the emotional pain and spiritual disconnect I had had within myself. I had wanted someone other than me to fix my life and to take away my loneliness.

Ultimately, the pain became so great that I stopped fighting against it and accepted it.

I looked in the most unexpected of places... to a person I barely even knew... to a woman who had been badly hurt and emotionally abandoned and I asked for her help.

No other thing or relationship could have stepped in and written those journals for me and read those inspirational books through my eyes. No other woman or man could have cried those tears that only I could cry.

It wasn't until I stopped fighting against and running away from me, did I begin to really see myself. And the person I uncovered beneath all of those superficial layers was a self - a woman - that I had been suffering to meet.

Feeling desperate for love was just a symptom of something greater missing from within. But like the humans we are, I thought I would find that something out there!

Today, it doesn't matter whether I'm single or in a relationship. I'm happy just to be alive and do not waste my time complaining about this or that ex-partner, or about what and who I don't have in my life.

I feel fulfilled and grateful for the person I am and no longer look for someone else to distract me from me. I'm no longer desperate for love because love resides within me.

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