Platonic relationships are relationships of friendship. Sometimes they're intimate but they lack any sexual or romantic involvement.
If you are in such a relationship with someone you desire physically, that's a rough place to be. You're hoping for more ... or they have given you reasons to believe that there will be more.
Sometimes people will call their relationships platonic even when it involves sexual relations.
It's the "friends with benefits" mindset whereby two people are free to bump and grind with one another without commitment.
Let me begin by saying that I've never understood the friends with benefits concept.
I know that it means you have a friend and a sex partner all in one with no strings attached or the desire for a commitment. I have never been able to understand why someone would want that kind of relationship.
Perhaps it's because I find it difficult being partially involved with a person that I am with physically.
When I'm with someone physically, I'm also choosing to be with them mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well.
There is more to being than our physical bodies so what good is there to bumping bodies when there is no inner connection.
I happen to believe that the "friends with benefits" concept, is just a clever way for certain people to not want to own up to the fact that their actions have consequences.
If you're over the age of consent and you're running around playing the friends with benefits game, you're not being responsible, mature, or real.
People develop attachments over time with other people they spend time with unless they have some severe personality or mental disorder.
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And to want to have the experience with the person but not the person is somewhat shallow and selfish.
What ends up happening is that one of the partners in this "no strings attached relationship" develops feelings and ends up either hurt or in denial of ones feelings.
It is your right to want to have a commitment to the person you're intimate with sexually.
I commend you for having healthy feelings of attachment. Recognize what it is you want and don't let another person convince you to cheat yourself.
The world is huge and no doubt there are people who like these "platonic relationships" and maybe these partnerships work for them.
However, if you're like me ... and you meet one of these people, don't fool yourself into believing that you can play at this game and win.
If you can't separate your heart from your head ... you're in good company and good emotional health.
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