Seven Reasons Why People Are Cheating In Marriage





Reasons why people are cheating in marriage is not as complicated as the mess they create when they decide to cheat.

Cheating, according to the my Dictionary, is defined as having a romantic, emotional, or physical relationship with another being outside of ones primary commitment unbeknownst to ones partner and, I might add, while still holding onto ones primary relationship.

I tried to think of some exceptions, as relationships can be somewhat complicated, and I thought of these exceptions to this definition.



  • If you are married, still, due to other reasons i.e., your mate is living in long term care because of some debilitating disease such as Alzheimer's, or some other mental of physical disability.

  • Danger or some physical retaliation by the other mate.

  • Divorce is denied by one mate.



  • So, there you have it! It is either through extreme love and devotion, or fear that excuses infidelity or cheating in marriage.

    Now that we are on the same page about what cheating is let's breakdown the reasons why people decide to cheat.


    If you are married or committed to someone physically and emotionally and you choose to step outside of that commitment to develop other physical and or emotional bonds with someone you find attractive, that is cheating in marriage.

    It doesn't matter if it's only emotional or only physical, or just a touch of the physical with a lot of talking and sharing and going into psychological areas that are usually off limits to anyone else but your mate. It's still cheating.

    I've clearly defined cheating as best as I could because people, undoubtedly, will lie to themselves and one another and actually try to rationalize those lies.


    They will tell themselves that they are cheating in their marriage because the wife at home isn't being the submissive wife they thought they married.

    They also have these kids together and a house ... and staying together is just easier than getting a divorce, and besides, what would the family or the neighbors think if everyone knew they wanted to divorce.

    They will tell themselves that their man at home isn't emotionally available any longer but rather than seek out family or couples counseling, sliding inside the sheets of a "friend" is much easier done.


    I've composed a list of the most obvious reasons why people cheat themselves out of a relationship rather than do the work necessary to make their commitment work.


    People are cheating in marriage due to:

  • Lack of Integrity (find a dictionary and look the word integrity up and think about this one)
  • Selfishness (it's all about what they want even if it's at the expense of someone else, including that new and more exciting "friend.")
  • Extremely low self-esteem

  • Emotional Immaturity

  • Lack of Self-Awareness

  • Laziness

  • Misinformation


  • Those are some pretty telling reasons why people cheating in marriage. They are already in a bad place before the cheating starts. The actual cheating is just the physical evidence that these people are not taking the time to care for themselves on a very deep, emotional, and spiritual level.

    And as a response they act out at a very critical time when they should be acting inward.

    When you go to bed tonight and sleep beside the person you have made that commitment to or, when you sit across from one another at the breakfast table in the morning reading the paper and drinking that fresh orange juice, are you the person they think you are or are you a fraud?

    You decide.



    Are you ready to attract to you people in your life who are self aware? Do you want a mate who has moved beyond cheating and deceit and lives with the reality of wholeness and abundance?




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